I recently shared an insightful conversation over cocktails with some foxy, singleton friends of mine. In manner of Linda Richman circa Saturday Night Live 1994, here’s a topic: men in committed relationships - they’re neither committed, nor in a relationship - discuss (heavy on the Jewish/New Yorker accent).
These said singletons have been engaging in a plethora of ‘other woman’ encounters, which leads one to question – are there really men out there that are in it for the long haul? Or rather, a series of ad-hoc hanky panky? The answer to that question is most definitely up for debate as my research on the subject continues…
Speaking from a 20-something perspective, I admit first hand to bearing a rather large chip on my shoulder with respect to interacting with the opposite sex. However, I do believe the ‘I’m young, I’m hot, and I don’t need you’ attitude will only carry you so far dear possums.
Does assuming the role of the other woman give some gals a sense of empowerment? Maybe, but last time I checked, we won the women’s lib movement ladies. We can vote, wear pants in the workplace and have successful careers. What else do we need to feel validated?
I for one have smooched my share of toads amongst a small pool of princes, but alas, there are good guys out there. Great guys in fact. I don’t buy into the man-hater propaganda. Call me an optimist, but I love men…adore them even. I’m not writing the fellas off just yet.
To be continued…
The Urban Cowgirl wishes you all a safe and sloshy St Patrick’s Day
2 comments:
Wow. I agree with the cowgirl..You gals don't get it. If you girls give guys the option to lease vs. buy on a depreciating asset which way do you think they will go?
Us guys are very simple. Give us the easy option and we will more than happily take it. The women we fall in love with, the ones we take home to mom and more importantly want to make a life with are not the hottest, the best looking, the smartest or make the most money. They are the ones who present the biggest challenge.
It's called evolving, if us ladies are going to commit, we'll do it with the men who are the hottest, make the most money, and are able to challenge. It's a shame you think of a woman as a depreciating asset. I suppose that is the difference between finding a confident woman or one who will settle.
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